Lia Purpura’s essay, “My Dog Doesn’t Know It’s Her Birthday,” appears in the Winter 2025 issue of The Southern Review. Here, she discusses ways of knowing, the roughness of cared-for language, and the imperative of forming relationships in an imperiled world.
Halley McArn: As the narrator of this essay stands on the edge of Lake Bemidji, she tries to name the beings in her midst. Yet naming these beings—beetles, loons, aspen trees—doesn’t bring her closer to experiencing their sensations. How do you define the difference between naming and knowing?
Lia Purpura: Wow, this is really central for me—getting close to the experience of others, and to ways of knowing and being that bypass conventional forms of understanding, recognizing the integument that exists between humans and the other-than-human world. As partial as it is, language can make some forays here, do some carrying work. I’m not inclined to lament the “uselessness” of language—that’s not an especially interesting or spiritually rich response for me, to work from lack, or failure, or self-consciousness. Language moves me to a certain point, glances, touches on, then bounces off … it functions more like light than scalpel or hammer. More like wind’s movement than an interstate’s. If human habits of mind like taxonomizing and “assessing” are anxious and potentially dangerous, then prepping to be known-to or known-by might show us more reciprocal ways of moving around in the world. We moderns are beyond late in recognizing or admitting to kinship. I want to be part of the efforts of so many (in all fields) to revoke the supremacy of our ways of knowing and admit experiences that are, more and more, becoming recognizable to us—like all the “languages” spoken by the mycelial world, the patterns and intelligences of oceans and plants, the quietest and least seen …
HM: The narrator is aware that forces can overtake shapes “for purposes entirely their own.” Some of these purposes seem tied to present needs—filled-in lakes, docks launching tricycles for a fee—while others seem an inevitable part of life—the pain in her dog’s paw, the need of the gingko to pass on its genes. What is your purpose when you start an essay?
LP: I’ve always felt aligned with E.M. Forster’s famous line: “How do I know what I think until I see what I say?” It describes so well the weird combination of presence and distance involved in writing. It’s almost primordial—that initial unselfconscious sketching, followed by the surprise—sometime shock—of reflection. My purpose at the outset of writing is to remain patient—to linger with the inklings, and to fully give over to curiosity. Maybe that’s more a practice than a purpose by now. Questions at the outset of a walk, or when sitting to write, are often as simple as, “what’s that one insect doing to that other insect?” And, “what’s this response in me—that joy, that flinch—all about?” Of course, I have Big Concerns and issues and rages and urgencies—but those are all written into, sort of snuck up on. I can’t start off armed with a subject—I need to find my way into conversation anew, every time.
HM: The narrator tries to console her dog “in the language of peanut butter treats.” Despite this shared language, the narrator cannot take her dog’s cut away, nor can she feel the cut for herself. How do you consider the wounds which we share but do not comprehend?
LP: The absolute aliveness of others (humans, sure, but even more so, the other-than-humans) that I am present to but cannot “understand” is a profound reality to me. And because I’m a writer, I nudge up to it in language. Which is humbling and natural and my fate and partial and stunning and redemptive and not nearly capacious enough for the depths of possible relationships—but it’s what I have to work with.
HM: You achieve so much momentum and clarity in these two lines: “I walk along the shore. / My chest fills up with loon.” How do you find the paragraph breaks in your essays?
LP: Oh, I think of paragraph breaks more like line breaks. My writing life began in poetry and I work on essays and poems at the same time, publish on both tracks, ride both rails simultaneously. In poems, I’m always working with the presence of the sentence, its meanderings and interruptions, and in prose, I’m always working with the shadows of poetry’s open space and breaks and sound patterns. That sense of breath, of allowing for silence and breath and pause in an essay feels like a natural way to give shape to, or to direct the pace of, thought and image.
HM: I take a lot of comfort in the quotations the narrator shares:
Where was I going I can’t
go to now, unless hurting?
Where am I standing, if I’m
to stand still now?
What thinkers and writers most influence your work?
LP: So this excerpt is from Denise Levertov’s stunning short poem “The Broken Sandal”—a poem that, as I say, passes along its question to the reader, to us, to what feels like, a next generation. It’s almost as if the questions she came to, about how to BE and ACT—are so clear and useful that the poet is handing it over to us for our own wounded moment. More and more I feel I’m very consciously writing in conversation with my elders; their words enter directly into my work these days. It’s a hunger for wisdom, a way to actively connect to a heritage. I call on them. Call them in. I recognize this, too, as a wildly different practice than the Anxiety of Influence script so many of us were given—that need to best others, the drive to solo, to “break” new ground, or mark territory that’s your own—rather than behave in a choral kind of way, acknowledging a community. A real lack of ecosystemic thinking there, and a privileging of individual achievement.
In that spirit, rather than cite individuals, I’d like to say a little about a way of being on the page that I love—I mean, one of the characteristics that moves me—it’s those so called “flaws” that accompany really adventurous, curious, deep-moving risk-taking work—poems and essays. It’s so entirely human to go a little off the rails, lose-and-regain, meander, over-write, scatter within a work or within a collection. I’m not talking about “dud” pieces, I’m talking about moments
where the writer is working-through and the oddness is necessary to the whole, actively moves the writer along into some kind of discovery. It’s a hard notion to describe but it’s when the cleaning up of something would wreck its strange heart, or create static points rather than live moments—all of which are necessary parts of the whole. Maybe it takes a little forbearance on the part of a reader (in the land of poetry, Walt Whitman requires it, and so does Emily Dickinson, and Gerard Manley Hopkins at times). I’d rather move through some roughness, or have my reading pace torqued a little, than have a thing tidied and message-y or fall into the hands of someone with a mind for topiary, kicking all the organic duff out of the way.
HM: I’ve been lucky enough to read, and thoroughly enjoy, your essay collection, On Looking (Sarabande Books). Every time I sense myself understanding what one of your essays is about, I’m plunged into an entirely new configuration of meaning—as if I’m learning how to be inside an idea as it unfurls. What is your process for finding the shape of an essay?
LP: Oh, I love that, “learning how to be inside an idea”—what a holistic way to think about reading. And writing. You know, often when I teach, I hear myself saying something like, “okay, stay with me here, I’m en route …” by which I mean to reassure folks that I’m rounding back, taking a turn, gathering up related stuff and yes, I promise, moving toward an idea … but real discovery can’t be compacted, can’t be taken from its necessary trails and meanders. So the “shape” of an essay is not a single “method” as much as patience with the actual movement and accretion of perception/thought/feeling. Every sensibility has its wobbles and needs to be tended and stewarded in particular ways—so I’m pretty alert to moments where density and weight might overcome or obscure shape.
HM: “Because I love that sensation,” the narrator writes of the sun on the ginkgo tree’s leaves, “I see the same in them.” I find this sentiment so sincere: that even as the experience of others expands beyond our perception, we can still reach into the unknown. Why is it important that we see ourselves in the world around us?
LP: Because the world sees us! We are being responded to all the time, even if we can’t touch into that, imagine it, and more and more it seems, against all wisdom, don’t value it (at our peril—and the peril of the other beings, including the elements, we’re taking down with us, who are talking talking talking endlessly to us). Whew. Now, though, the enormity of the situation—in the form of climate ruin—is daily upon us in incontrovertible ways. As I’m writing this, Los Angeles is burning. But there are relationships to be built, still and always. Ways of answering and interacting, loving and communicating that are not end-stopped by ruin. The micro relationships that art makes possible, those intimate moments—cultivating them, teaching their value, speaking about them—will help shift perception at large. Cared-for language is a way of valuing these relationships, imagining into possible ways of being for, and being with, others.
HM: How does being in nature inform your writing?
LP: I live in Baltimore, in an area where green space is at least accessible—green space is a complex subject in a city and it’s the marginal, overlooked, and degraded areas that draw me—compromised creeks that are still homes (to herons and foxes and crayfish); wooded sides of highways seeded with trash that work as archeological sites; scrappy, persistent urban forests; city streets that hold evidence of the lives conducted along them. These spaces feel sacred to me as my home ground, as my land, even as they’re challenged and suffering and making do. I’m part of a number of local greening and restoration efforts—forest stewardship, tree planting and maintenance, community farming and food justice work with others. I want to work exactly where I am with what I’ve got—it’s another way of asserting that we are not at all separate from our land, and not separate from the other beings that live here. And of course, what we do to the land we do to ourselves. Art doesn’t merely reflect the Zeitgeist but changes it, offers ways of imagining that create the conditions for change, and maybe even more, a sensitivity toward the need for change, a taste for it, which I’m inclined to call hope.
HM: What upcoming projects are you most excited about?
LP: I feel a sense of profound urgency about the state of the world, and I’m having to figure out ways not to be clobbered by the enormity of the tasks and responses required—and the losses. I’m hardly alone here—it’s the condition of anyone working in any art form today. I’m about halfway through a collection of poems and a collection of short form essays. “My Dog Doesn’t Know It’s Her Birthday” is one angle on the interests of the essays at large, which include relationships with the other-than-human world, the holiness of decay (and our inevitable participation in the natural cycles), how we might imagine into future ways of caring. A few months ago, I started sewing (literally, I mean, with red thread) into the breaches and openings, the breaks and cracks of natural objects like milkweed and wasp nests and icicles (posted on Instagram—my first foray!). This work is informing my writing, in conversation with it in ways I only barely understand at the moment. I do know that simultaneous art practices feed all kinds of internal conversations and questions. I’m watching to see where all this new work is going together.
Lia Purpura has authored books of essays, poems, and translations. A National Book Critics Circle Award finalist for On Looking, her awards include Guggenheim, National Endowment for the Arts, and Fulbright Fellowships. Her newest collections are It Shouldn’t Have Been Beautiful and All the Fierce Tethers.
Halley McArn is the editorial assistant of The Southern Review and an MFA candidate at Louisiana State University with a focus on prose writing. She’s served as the Poetry and Nonfiction Editor for the New Delta Review and as an editorial assistant at Speculative Nonfiction. You can find her work in Bright Wall/Dark Room.